It’s taken me a few days to work up to writing about the breakup of REM. Wednesday morning, as I was doing an early morning weights workout, the scroll across the bottom of the screen silently announced the news.
I startled John, who was engrossed in the news on his computer in the dining room. REM was one of my bucket-list bands. I don’t mean to see before I die – I have a few bands left that, after seeing them, I could conceivably never go to another concert. (Conceivable? Probably not. But maybe.) Concerts bucket list.
Now I can never see them live. But I’m actually OK with it. It’s not that I’m losing my REM religion – but sometime’s it’s wiser to heed Buddy Holly’s advice than to turn into still-touring relics. Rolling Stones, I love you, but a 50-year tour? That’s getting kind of creepy.
I’ll always have the finest worksong to play for the finest of hours. And REM kept me from chewing my leg off when I needed out of a miserable marriage. And helped me have the courage to go for it.
So I’ll settle for my REM collection and knowing that “Automatic for the People” will always be on my 10-desert-island-albums list.
I’ll always miss you and be grateful for your assistance through some rough spots in life. RIP, REM.
Speaking of Top 10s (the desert-island list), how do you choose from a lifetime (a looonnnggg lifetime) of music?
“The Allman Brothers Live at the Fillmore East” is a no-brainer. Has been since I was 16.
So is Derek and the Dominos’ “Layla and Other Assorted Love Songs.” Goes without saying.
“Automatic for the People.” “Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band.” “Z.Z. Top’s First Album” (they used to kick ass, trust me).
Crap, halfway there with old stuff. And haven’t even addressed Led Zeppelin. OK, “Houses of the Holy.” What the hell. They’re all good. And there’s that confounded bridge that always makes Liz and me smile.
But any Top 10 list of mine would be heavy on Tom Petty – he is my husband in a parallel universe. (It’s OK, it’s OK. John digs him too.) And my baby boy, Ben, used to beg me to play TP. So he’s got to be there. He could be all 10, actually.
But I guess I could settle for “The Waiting,” if I had to, and “The Traveling Wilburys, Vol.1,” but it would almost kill me to choose.
Please notice I’m being authentic and true and not copping out with greatest hits or boxed sets. You try it – waaayyyy harder.
Then I’d have to add Mumford & Sons “Sigh No More” and The Avett Brothers, probably “Live, Vol. 3.”
Shit, that’s it! Can I live with it forever? Maybe. Ask me tomorrow. But probably not – there’s no DMB, and when you’ve gotta hear Dave, you’ve gotta hear Dave. Or Willie. Or Leon Russell. Oh, my.
This won’t do! Ten is not enough. No desert islands for me unless I can bring my iPod Touch with unlimited battery power.
Maybe next time I’ll do an all-girls version. Or an all-Beatles. Or an all-post ’90s. Or an all-boxed-sets. You try it. It’s hard.
What IS your Top 10? I dare you.